Divorce
Divorce- the mere mention of the word makes most people cringe. Yet
about half of all marriages in America end this way. You would think
the often tortuous experience of going through a divorce would make
people hesitate to want one, but statistics show this isn't the case.
Overview
Getting a divorce can be as simple as signing some papers if you are
fortunate enough not to have had any children in the marriage, had few
assets or debt together, and weren't married for very long. However,
there aren't a large number of people who fall into this category, so
divorces are usually very complicated and costly.
Divorce - the "Easy" Way
As mentioned above, if you're lucky enough to fall into the relatively
small category to go through a divorce the "easy" way, here's how to do
so. There are companies like "We the People" who will do all of the leg
work required to file for a divorce and will make it as easy and
painless as possible. If you aren't living with your spouse, they will
mail the paperwork to him/her for signature.
They may also coordinate with the court system to get the papers filed
so you can eventually get a court date. Places like this generally only
charge about $500 and from start to finish takes less than six months
in most cases for divorces to be finalized.
Divorce - the Not So "Easy" Way
If you are like most people that go through a divorce, it's not easy.
They can be very complicated and costly, not to mention the emotional
stress it can take on people. There is more than likely going to be
attorneys involved, which is always a rather joyful experience. Some
charge astronomical rates which can set people back in the thousands,
if not tens of thousands.
Scorned spouses especially don't want to play nice so one of the first
things they'll do is acquire a good divorce attorney. Attorney's fees
on top of being ordered to pay spousal or child support can financially
change a person's life. If the soon-to-be-ex-spouses can't agree on
anything either, this just drags the process out even longer. This
means more time and more money spent for attorney's fees.
The Process
In most cases, except for the ones who go through a divorce the "easy"
way, there are several steps in the process from filing to the
finalization of a divorce. After filing for divorce at your local
courthouse and acquire a divorce attorney, that's when the fun starts.
In order to find out the facts and each side's story, attorneys will
use something called the process of "discovery."
You'll have to give testimony, either written or spoken, about the
details of the marriage and why a divorce is being sought. Questions
can be very personal and emotions can run high during this process.
After this is complete, mediation may be an option. This allows the two
parties to basically settle out of court and come to an agreement on
their own.
Of course, the key here is both parties have to agree and sometimes
soon-to-be-ex's can barely look at each other, let alone be in a same
room and agree to the outcome of their divorce. So, in a lot of cases,
after the discovery process, a trial date will be set and a judge will
be the final decision maker.
Conclusion
In conclusion, divorces can be time-consuming, expensive, and
emotionally draining. People that may be contemplating a divorce should
read articles such as these before they take any steps. A marital
counselor is by far cheaper than a money hungry divorce attorney.